This inner turmoil can be compounded if you’re surrounded by people who aren’t supportive of certain lifestyles or desires, which sounds like what’s going on with your father. Should I try to get gay conversion therapy to fix myself?Ī: Sexual feelings can be really hard to figure out, particularly when you’re young and testing things out with other people or thinking them through by way of mental fantasies or pornography. How do I know I'm really gay? I’m super scared that I might be, because my dad’s always saying that being gay is a sickness you need to cure, and I don’t wanna be sick. I’ve become obsessed with lesbian porn, but I'm not sure I actually want to do sexual things with actual girls. Q: I’m a girl who's been been having fantasies about other women. This week’s topic is a little different: How do I know if I’m a lesbian and should I seek conversion therapy to 'cure' it? But what about finding solutions to those stressful sexual health situations that inevitably crop up when you’re getting down? Emma Kaywin, a Brooklyn-based sexual health writer and activist, is here to calm your nerves and answer your questions. We at Bustle love giving you tips for how to tap into your sexual potential and troubleshoot when things aren’t going your way in the bedroom.
